Saturday, April 18, 2015

Why We Don't Do Rated R


Before we got married, my husband and I went to rated R movies and also owned a few. We really didn't have a strong opinion of them since we watched very few to begin with. 

Three years after we were married we found out we were expecting our first child. At that time I felt God was convicting me to get rid of movies that were full of images and language I never wanted my children to see. So I threw a the few R rated movies we had and stopped getting them from Netflix.

My husband didn't have the same conviction I had but he did respect the no rated R movie policy. Less then a year ago he asked me to get Shawshank Redemption from Netflix. I was hesitant but put it on the list. This was one of his favorite movies ad it broke when we were dating. So after about 10 years of not seeing it, he was finally getting a chance to watch it again.

I have heard the studies done on how we have become desensitized to violence and bad language. We had our own test that night. For 6 years we had watched very few movies with language and graphic violence and we were about the watch a movie full of both. It didn't take long for my husband to comment on how violent it was and how he didn't remember so many swear words. 

After the movie, my husband was so much more on board with the no rated R movies. We may have exceptions here and there, but very few. We know and understand that what is seen cannot be unseen and what has been heard cannot be unheard. 

Choices about movies need to be made with wisdom and discernment. For our family we want to expose ourselves images and sounds that are not going to harm us. We don't want to become so desensitized that we become immune to the evils around us. Violence becomes more accepted and less horrific.Villains become heroes. Occasional nudity becomes pornographic in our hyper sexualized world.To protect our hearts we first need to protect our eyes and ears and those of our children.

Thursday, February 19, 2015

Respect: No More Husband Bashing


Over on Jill Savage's blog its Third Thursday Blog Hop where women can share their thoughts. Today's topic is about respect.




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A few years ago I made the decision to stop husband bashing. It's not like I went out of my way to bash him, but when others around me were doing it, I would join in. This is so wrong and doesn't help our marriage nor does it help him become a better man. 

This doesn't mean I never talk about him, but I take time to think through whether it is a bashing session where the wives are trying to come up with who has the worst husband or are we talking about our struggles in marriage. It's ok to talk about what we might be struggling with, it is not ok to blame it all on your husband.

When I would "bash" him in front of others, I was not showing the respect he deserves. It makes him feel bad and often times makes him not want to help me out. If I am making fun of his skills when doing dishes, why would he want to help out. If I am telling others he is like a forth child and treat him as such, I am not also not showing him the respect he deserves. His behavior can be directly related to how I treat him. None of this bashing or put downs will help our marriage. 

Now when I do talk about him, its about our struggles of trying to work together as husband and wife, father and mother. He's a good man, good father, and good husband and I need to treat him as such. Yes I wish he'd help out around the house more, but I've come to understand him and why he struggles with it. When I was able to step back and stop trying to come up with the best "worst" husband stories, I realized that he struggles as much as I do in our marriage and how we work together. Now we work together much better. I understand him better. We communicate better. 

God calls a wife to respect our husband. When we show the appropriate respect to our husbands at all times, we become the woman who is strong and supportive. Without us, husbands wouldn't be able to be the men of God they are called to be for their families. We complement them in a way God intended.

Saturday, January 17, 2015

Getting Organized Day 17

Do you have 15 minutes a day to spend on a simple task that will make your home life run easier. Here's how I'm doing it. With a little help of Home Storage Solutions and their 52 week challenge, I am going to get things organized a little at a time.

 Today's task: Declutter pots, pans, and lids


Really easy today. I got rid of one little pot and wiped out the cabinet. Less then 15 minutes today!
 How did you do today?

Friday, January 16, 2015

Getting Organized Day 16

Do you have 15 minutes a day to spend on a simple task that will make your home life run easier. Here's how I'm doing it. With a little help of Home Storage Solutions and their 52 week challenge, I am going to get things organized a little at a time.

Today's Challenge: Under the sink

Not to bad. Mostly dirty. Took less then 15 minutes. I cleaned a few things out and wiped it all down. Nice and clean after.

 



How does your under the sink look now?

Thursday, January 15, 2015

Getting Organized Day 15

Do you have 15 minutes a day to spend on a simple task that will make your home life run easier. Here's how I'm doing it. With a little help of Home Storage Solutions and their 52 week challenge, I am going to get things organized a little at a time.

Today's Challenge:
Declutter food storage containers

Well this was the easiest task so far . . . 
Before  
 
After
Yep I didn't have to do anything. I love having stackable containers. It makes life much more organized. 


How did you do?

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Getting Organzied Day 14

Do you have 15 minutes a day to spend on a simple task that will make your home life run easier. Here's how I'm doing it. With a little help of Home Storage Solutions and their 52 week challenge, I am going to get things organized a little at a time.

Today's Task:
Declutter foil, kitchen wrap, and plastic bags

Not too hard of a task. It gave me a chance to see what I had and wipe out the drawer.

Before

After
 So how did you do today?

Tuesday, January 13, 2015

Getting Organized Day 13

Do you have 15 minutes a day to spend on a simple task that will make your home life run easier. Here's how I'm doing it. With a little help of Home Storage Solutions and their 52 week challenge, I am going to get things organized a little at a time.

Today's Challenge:
Junk Drawer

Before


Throw away pile, picture to hang up, pile of things that go somewhere, anywhere else

After picture with my awesome top tray

After! Look at what hides under that top tray. Love this junk drawer organizer from Target.    

Well how did you do today?